Parenting Tips
By Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D
For the WHYY Children's Service

Taking the Kids Shopping

If you have to take the little ones with you while you shop - especially now, at holiday time - you know what to expect - "I want this," "Oh, mommy, can I have that?"

Do you get into a major power play - are you and your child now frustrated, angry, and powerless?

Here's some things you can do:

• Talk about buying presents for others ahead of time.
• When you find that sweater for grandma, ask your child if he likes it too. If not, ask him why. Let him help you choose another one until you find one you both like.
• Tell him you understand it's hard when he sees so many things. Ask him to tell you what you can do so he won't feel so badly.

If his request is unreasonable, let him pick out a trinket or two. Let him know you understand it's hard to wait, but that he'll get real presents too.

• If you can, go to eat during this time and let your child choose the place - from among choices ok with you.
• Thank your child for helping you shop. He'll feel like he was part of it instead of just being dragged along.

If possible, leave the kids with someone - anyone you trust. But if you can't do that, involve him.

You and your child will enjoy holiday shopping a while lot more.